Sunday, July 08, 2007

Out of control!!

Today we had a lovely outdoor dinner with our friends Jackie & Raf and their two little girls, who are friends of Sam from his first school...lovely except Sam was REALLY grouchy and had several outbursts, including one where he
*got mad at Sophie because she was sitting on "his" seat on HER swingset
*when she didn't respond to his command to relocate, dumped a cold cup of water on her head
*when asked by me how I could help him calm down, requested that I "kill Daddy," who was apparently not sensitive enough to Sam's swingset needs
*refused to apologize for about an hour.

Then they all made up and played some more. For some reason as we were leaving, he called Lucy an "idiot" for no evident reason. Nice.

He then proceeded to scream all the way home because we said no to his request to watch TV when we got home. Then at home he screamed some more, before falling asleep halfway through his second bedtime story.

Saturday at the pool he punched a boy (older than Sam by a year or two thank goodness) on the arm, then was devastated when the boy punched him back. That's what happens when you hit someone!

He has been quite a handful this past week...maybe a growth spurt? Hopefully it settles soon!!

Monday, July 02, 2007

School drama

I have been loathe to write this update for some time, explaining my internetz absence. Many of you know the scoop, but here is the official version:

The Plan
..for kindergarten was to apply for The Chosen Charter School, and if Sam didn't get a spot, continue at The Preschool for kindergarten. As told previously, Sam was wait listed at Charter, so private K it was.

The Dump
ONE WEEK before the end of the school year, the school's director informed us that she had decided Sam was too high needs and he could not return for K. Director's recommendation was Expensive School, which is not an option here in Reality because it costs 28 THOUSAND per year. Director helpfully suggested to "take a loan" for what would be well over half our household income for one year of school.

We began the process of ordering evaluations (language processing, neuropsych, developmental, behavioral) and starting the IEP process in the local public school, as well as trying to find a school for Sam to attend. After writing a formal appeal/grievance to The Preschool, we *finally* got the written evaluation we requested, and eventually even our deposit (gee thanks!)As of now, Sam has been offered a spot at another charter, where last week we registered him, and we are waiting to hear from a third by August 1.

Sam has been remarkably calm in dealing with all the sudden change and uncertainty. He is currently attending an Expensive but Excellent summer program at Expensive School (5 weeks for $2500!!) and is doing very very well. The student: teacher ratio is 4:1! I do wish we could keep him there but that is out of the question, unless we can get the school system to pay for it--which may be a possibility for first grade if he continues to have difficulties in kindergarten.

It's been super stressful to say the least, though so many friends have been so supportive. (Special shout outs to Julie, Hannah, Carla, Debbi and Michelle H for some great ideas and insider info!) I am trying hard not to be bitter towards The Director, though I strongly feel her actions were impulsive and unprofessional. I just want what is best for Sam and for him to have good school experiences.

So that's the scoop for now...will aim to keep all posted.

On a lighter note---
Recently I was on the computer, and Sam came upstairs bearing 2 wine glasses of milk for us to share--and he wearing not a stitch of clothing. He is quite charming, is he not? We had a nice toast.

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